August 13, 2025

The Lord Krishna (कृष्ण)
fluting for the Gopis (गोपी)

Wednesday:
Relationships, good or bad? | August 13, 2025

By the use of the word "relationship" I could mean many things, but in this post I intend to cover only the subject of the male-female relationship, but I admit that the world "relationship" could refer to many other bonds between people, and that a relationship status even between a man and a woman does not have to bring with it necessarily a sexual dynamic, but these other forms of relationships, such as friendships, are outside the scope of this particular post, so do bear with me. Whether a relationship is good or bad can indeed be a rather hard question to answer, but there are a couple of things worth taking into consideration: is the relationship meant for something, that is it the relationship meant to produce something or put something into motion in the material world; is the relationship meant only for the hedonistic self-pleasure of the people involved; or is the relationship meant to foster and uphold a sense of security within that union in an otherwise cold, uncaring, unforgiving, and individualistic world? Verily, we do live in the times of the Kali Yuga and the perhaps most salient feature of this era is the out-of-control individualism that has reduced man to a being almost completely cut of from any concept of society or the organism of the society as such, and this has indeed prompted many men to feel insecure in themselves as they have no bearing and not meaning in their lives, and this is certainty why the serpent has operated so that the many quantities of this our modern world keeps multiplying and increase, so that man can fill his empty soul with meaningless and useless artifacts that have become evermore transient in nature, for the thrill of a new toy or a new distraction is ever fleeing, especially in a world where profound meaning and insight is sorely lacking. It is therefore easy to feel not only lost but profoundly lonely in the modern world, and to the extent that the relationship between a man and a woman is entered into for the purpose of providing both parties meaning and insight, I see no issue with the union of man and woman, but it is often the case that men and women enter into the relationship, the pre-marriage, in order not to fulfill the purpose of creating a divine bond that provides both insight and meaning but to release all their sexual anxieties and energies driven by the vanity and the hysteria of the modern world, and to this extent I regard the relationship as something fundamentally immoral and unjust, for it hails the victory of the meat as the final and most worthwhile avenue of human effort, in the struggle between the good and the evil and in falling for the ultimate temptation man proves his allegiances to the serpent and the agenda of the beast. In my view, the relationship should serve only the material purpose of marriage and marriage should serve only the material purpose of procreation; other than that there are no material justifications for the relationship. Being a part of a relationship is something both profoundly divine but also private, but in the modern world the relationship has been democratized in a sense, and it is quite normal or expected that most people should wish to enter into a relationship for the depraved and profane reasons that I just outlined: sexual pleasure has been made the goal and the victory of the relationship, which means that man when entering into the relationship, in modern times that is, has transformed into the beast, for that is the only legitimate way a man can interact with the world as a part of a union, a union based on materialism and justified by the material pursuit.

    Of course, from a historical and traditional point of view, the partnership that used to be the male-female relationship has almost been completely disfigured beyond recognition in the modern world, and sacred boundaries derived from the celestial order have often been deemed oppressive, rearguard, and even harmful, and this because of the accelerated cultural shift in this particular iteration of the Kali Yuga. This also goes to the points I made in my post about the divine ratio between men and womenfolk, and in a society that is over saturated with men, many things become unstable and the society starts to drift away on the high seas and fewer and fewer men can see the light and find security on dry shores, and this is also why men have lost their masculine spirit and why womankind has gradually been forced to become more and more manlike in their interaction with the world, in short: the world is in an unstable place and we are currently heading towards a divine disaster that will work to shake the world so that it may become enabled to be put into its proper place under the celestial order. The station of marriage has also been challenged, attacked, and democratized in the name of "human right", for marriage in the primordial and traditional sense stands in complete opposition to the many and grand claims of the humanist axiom and the assertion that all men under the sun are essentially equal in both constitution and character and that therefore, the act of discrimination must always be evil and depraved since the supposed "freedom" of man is nonpareil in the modern world and cannot be questioned. What then constitutes a proper relationship? Again, a proper relationship that is outside marriage is one where there is either an understanding on both parties that they may enter into marriage in the future, divine marriage that is, or one where there is a platonic understanding, that is to say one where there is no future possibility of sexual intercourse, and such a relationship would be no different from a male-male friendship and indeed something I would encourage.

Thangka of Four Armed
Chenrezig (अवलोकितस्वर)

    The traditional purpose of a male-female relationship was of course to probe the terrain in a sense, that is to say men and women entered into a platonic relationship in order to gather whether they could fit together as a married union within the larger societal context, and often they were then married off, but on occasion and in some cultures there was no concept of a male to female relationship to begin with, and indeed this is still the case in some cultures in mostly distant corners of the world that have yet to be infected by the disease and the decay of the imperial core. Of course, during this the 21st century, the relationship has reached a point where it has been made into a completely material enterprise, meant to serve the lust for meat, and as such very few people actually enter into a relationship with the divine and the proper purpose; for such people the relationship is merely a temporary and always transient phase that man is supposed to move on from so that he can enter into another one, and on it goes while the world is falling apart all around him. This is why I continue to call on all far-seeing men to embrace celibacy, for if you can do this you can surely overcome the many aggressive and sinister temptations of the Kali Yuga, for at the top of the contemporary world order stands the figure of Lucifer; sexual pleasure is for many men the most advanced form of temptation. Resist, resist, resit!

Reginald Drax – August 13, 2025.